on one of my epically bad dates (so bad, i'm going to stretch it into a few posts)
i spent an entire dinner asking questions about my date and fueling our conversation.
not that it needed much to get him going- good thing his FAVORITE topic was himself & how wonderful he is....... blah blah blah me me me...... he'd lead me into topics just so he could tell me how interesting/funny/marriageable he is..
he never ONCE asked a question other than, "what would you like to eat?"
listen, i'm not the most interesting person on earth but i DO have a few talking points....
nearing the end of my confinement with this person, he said,
"you know, i don't really like to ask many questions on a first date."
at this point, i was SO over it.... it'd been torturous.... so i replied,
"yeah, i noticed."
him: well, i just don't want to fire off questions.
me: well, there's a way in natural conversation to pick up on cues the other person drops to keep a conversation spinning and in the process, you can learn about them.
after a furrowed brow and stumped look on his face (you know he was digging deep to think of a question to ask), he dropped this zinger:
"so what do you do in nyc when you're not eating?" (i guess we'd talked a lot about food -safe topic-)
at this point, i'm OVER it. OVER IT! he's not getting any info about me now.
me: i generally think about my next meal. yep. i just spend time planning it in my mind.